I got smart and am now sending our driver with Addie and Bella or just Addie (depending on the day) for school drop off. Then I go pick them up with the driver. This gives me the entire morning to play and read with Ashlynn and Bella if it's a day Bella doesn't go to school. I can nurse Ashlynn and get her down for her nap. She's been sleeping longer when I'm at home to nurse her before she lies down. Bella isn't cranky sitting in the car any more. It's a winning situation all around. Addie made a stink after a few days about not giving me a hug when she's dropped off at school but I tried to explain to her that it just isn't practical for me to just go along for the ride when our driver is responsible and two girls need me at home. Plus I made the case that is was like having her own private school bus taking her to school. She seemed to understand.
I have to say this change has done wonders for my mental well-being. After I kiss the girls goodbye for their day I can eat my breakfast with Ash, get a cup of tea, and settle down on the floor to play with my darling girl. It's opened up at least 2 hours in my day. Yesterday I made bagels with some of that time. I also cleaned the playroom and checked my email. Imagine that.